Children off to school
Does your child suffer with anxiety? It is very common and can show itself in many ways such as worrying, difficulty sleeping, digestive issues, being moody and snappy, withdrawal, depression, obsessive behaviour, panic attacks and so on.
This time of year can be especially challenging, with the new academic year, which brings lots of change and new experiences for school aged children. But what can you do to help your child? Some children are more prone to suffer with anxiety than others, but part of our job as parents and carers is to act, when they show that they are struggling and not just ignore it and hope that it’ll go away by itself!
I see a lot of children in my practice who are suffering with anxiety, and Craniosacral Therapy is usually fundamental to changing things for them.
Our nervous system should spend most of its time in the ‘rest and digest’ mode and rarely need to be in ‘fight, flight or freeze’. However, after experiencing stress, our bodies can get stuck in the ‘fight, flight or freeze’ mode and finding the ‘off switch’ can become almost impossible. This results in a variety of symptoms: anxiety, stress, being hypervigilant, being aggressive, very tired, depressed, and so on. And yes, this can be the case in very young children too, even babies. The priority here is for the therapist to show the child’s nervous system how to down-regulate from the ‘fight, flight or freeze’ mode to ‘rest and digest’ and this is what I do. This practice alone usually has a profound impact on the child’s anxiety or stress levels.
The next stage of their treatment is for me to identify any specific tensions or restrictions that are being held in the child’s physiology, and then help those tensions to release in a very gentle way, and at a pace that is right for the child.
It is worth saying at this point that nearly all the children that I see, REALLY enjoy their treatments and will ask to come back, even once they are all better! It is not unusual for them to be asleep by the end! Making your child feel safe, and secure in the knowledge that I am there to help and support them is a top priority for me. And if you don’t feel that your child could lay down during the treatment or keep still, don’t worry, we can work around this and treatments can still be really effective.
So there is a brief explanation of why Craniosacral Therapy and how it works. Now onto the ‘toolbox’ part…..
When parents bring their children to see me, they often ask me is there’s anything they can be doing at home, with their child, to support them whilst they receive treatments and I tell them about the toolbox, which I believe everyone needs. A toolbox of resources, or in other words, things or skills that we know help to keep us well and happy, help us to cope and keep us strong. Things we should use on an ongoing basis, but could turn to particularly when the going gets tough.
So, I’ve put together some suggestions of some things to go in the toolbox. These are things which either I have used myself with my own children, or that have been recommended to me by other health professionals or other parents. If you have any of your own ideas, please let me know because I am always keen to extend the list!
- The Wishing Star by Relax Kids. Relax Kids do various books along similar lines for children. This one is full of creative visualisations, meditations and relaxations. Children can imagine they are lying in soft grass, sitting in a peaceful cave, watching a beautiful sunset and flying like a bird. From 5 years old.
- What To Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid’s Guide To Overcoming Anxiety by Dawn Huebner and Bonnie Matthews. A favourite of mine – this book is aimed at primary aged children, and talks about how ‘feeding worries’ helps them to grow and introduces the idea of a ‘worry box’.
- Sitting Still Like A Frog: Mindfulness Exercises For Kids (And Their Parents) by Eline Snel. A book and CD, which teaches us how to be in the moment, rather than the past or the future, a key skill in mental health.
- Affirmation Cards For Kids by Catherine Keller. Often children find it hard to say good things about themselves, but with daily practice, it becomes easier and easier and soon it is a new way of thinking!
- The Law Of Attraction For Kids by Jennifer Quaggin. Similar to the above, but aimed at slightly older children.
Mindfulness / relaxation / sleep apps
- There is vast array of these apps available. A lot are free. My advice would be to do a search and try several until you find one that your child likes. Some people prefer talking, some music, some white noise. They can be used for mindfulness practice and / or at bedtimes to help quieten the mind.
- Abdominal breathing is the most efficient and relaxed way of getting enough air into out lungs. However, we sometimes get into the habit of chest breathing which increases our stress levels. There is good advice online on abdominal breathing and how to train yourself (or your child) to do it habitually, eg. http://www.guysandstthomas.nhs.uk/resources/patient-information/therapies/abdominal-breathing.pdf.
Help from the school / GP
- Do the school know about the situation?
- Have you told your child’s GP?
Schools are often able to offer additional support where appropriate. Both schools and GPs are able to refer your child to a mental health specialist for assessment.
Life can be stressful. We all need healthy coping strategies / support in place. Many children are under a lot of pressure from school and so on. Start filling up your child’s toolbox. By taking action, you are showing your child that it is good to be open about their feelings and to tell you when they need help or are worried; that they are not alone and that things can and will get better.
And please note also, that often when we take a look at our children’s stress levels, we realise that our own stress levels need addressing also. It’s really hard for children to be calm when their parents are not, so its important to address your own stress levels too. How about filling your own toolbox?
Please do feel free to get in touch if you would like to discuss anything in this blog or if you have concerns about the impact that stress or anxiety is having in your child’s life or your own. I’ll be happy to have a chat with you.
Special thanks go to Julie Clark of Julie Clark Nutrition for suggesting that I write this blog in the first place!
Resources why do they matter – a little test for you ……
I have been working as a Craniosacral Therapist for about 7 years now and I have learnt many things along the way. One of the main things I have discovered, is that some people are more likely to suffer ill health than others.
There are many factors that can predispose us to disease, of course. But what I see time and time again, is that people who are suffering ill health, pain, depression are under-resourced. When we are under resourced, we have few coping strategies and we struggle more with life’s challenges. We neglect ourselves, year after year, often putting other people’s needs before our own. We just carry on and on and on, ignoring the signs (no time for that!) until our system, one way or the other, FORCES us to stop (pain, disease, depression etc take over) and we have no choice but to ask for help.
When we are well resourced, we are resilient, strong, feel supported and are far better equipped to cope with life’s stresses and problems. In a nutshell, we are less prone to disease.
There are many reasons why people become under-resourced. A Craniosacral Therapist can sense how well resourced your system is through touch and then they can work with your body to build the potency passing through it. That is one way to build up the resources within the system. There are also things that the patient can do, outside of the treatment room to help themselves.
Here comes the little test……..So how well resourced are YOU?
I encourage all my patients to write a list of 10 things that resource them. Go on, have a go. Your list is unique to you. There may be things on it which you are not able to do right now, but still, put them on if you consider that they would ‘feed your soul’. So, grab some paper and a pen and have a go before you read on (it works best this way)……
How did you get on? Did you get to 5? Over 10?
Often, simply putting our attention on that list is a useful exercise. It can really help us to focus on our own needs.
I find that well resourced people can write their list quickly and easily and could often write way more than 10 things down. These people are well aware of what they need to keep themselves well and they make their health a priority.
Whilst people who under-resourced either look at me blankly, or as if they think I am mad (new mums fall into the latter category – their focus is naturally on their young baby and they have little time for themselves), and they struggle to think of even two or three things that should be on their list. It may even take them a few days to get to 10.
If you are struggling, examples might be:
• Having a Craniosacral Therapy session
• Taking a walk in the woods
• Writing a diary
• A trip to the seaside
• Going out with friends
• Talking to your best friend
As I say, there is no right or wrong, everyone’s list is different.
More to the point, if you struggled with that exercise, how would it be for you to do something about it? This is YOUR life and it’s important that you enjoy it and stay as healthy as you can!
I’m too busy
If this is the case, please pause and take an honest look at your life and how you are living it. Do you want things to stay the same?
I need help!
I am offering free telephone consultations now! Do get in touch on 07956 390419 and you can tell me more about your situation and I will see if I can help you.
Craniosacral Therapy may be a treatment that you have never heard of before and different to anything else you have ever tried before. Robyn Scherr, Craniosacral Therapist wrote a brief summary of what it is and how it helps, and I have listed the main points that she makes below and added some points of my own.
Craniosacral Therapy is an educated, specific, non-invasive touch that supports your body’s innate ability to heal. This gentle healing technique can address a variety of health concerns. Here’s why Craniosacral Therapy may be the answer you seek for your health issue:
1. You Can Discover the Healing Power of Your Inner Wisdom: Craniosacral Therapy is a simple, direct way of accessing your own inner wisdom and innate healing mechanism. The clients’ inner wisdom leads and directs the session, which is the central premise of this modality. The therapist will “listen” to the client’s system with their hands, assess the priorities and respond accordingly.
2. It Uses a Combined Mind, Body and Spirit Approach: It works on the physical, emotional and spiritual aspects of oneself. Each session is unique, which means any one of these aspects, or combination of these aspects, can appear in a session. For example, sometimes we have a sense with a headache that it’s in response to an emotional trigger, but can’t quite identify it. With Craniosacral Therapy, clients are provided the opportunity to feel how and where the tissue is holding tension as the emotional trigger shows up. This can be very enlightening and with subsequent sessions, clients tend to become more self aware.
3. Receive It At Any Age: Because Craniosacral Therapy is so gentle, it can be received from the time of conception onwards. I see a lot of children for example, with a range of issues, such as anxiety, sleep disorders, digestive concerns and so on. But it is never too late! Craniosacral Therapy can used in the elderly also and even to support someone during the process of dying. That listening, non invasive touch can be helpful to anyone, even if you don’t have a specific “problem”! Some clients continue to have top up sessions with me, even though their issues have resolved, simply because they feel it helps to keep them “on a level”, such is the support that it provides.
4. Complementary to traditional medicine: Craniosacral Therapy should be used in conjunction with traditional medicine, rather than as alternative to it. I am a great supporter of traditional medicine, my father is a medical professor in fact, but we all know that, unfortunately, traditional medicine does not solve everything and in my experience, Craniosacral Therapy can often provide relief, even when traditional routes have not or when traditional medicine is treating the symptoms rather than the underlying cause.
5. It’s Flexible: Clients can work as intensively as they like. Treatments can be received every few days, or once every month or two.
Overall CranioSacral Therapy is a highly effective light-touch therapy that works with the source of pain and dysfunction and the whole body simultaneously. Now that you have more information about this noninvasive healing technique, you can decide if you would like to give it a try; I encourage you to!
Recent revolutions in science tell us that chronic pain is usually NOT in the tissues! This contradicts many old ideas of how to “fix” pain. Want to know how to overcome chronic pain?
What we now understand is that pain is a complex process and that it can often become a habit which we don’t know how to stop. The practice of feeding the brain new information, “tricks” the brain into experiencing the body in a different way. As a result of this, the pain is less, we sleep better, anxiety levels often reduce and generally speaking, life is better!
In Craniosacral Therapy, we guide the whole system towards safety, encouraging it to move into the present moment and we help to develop new neuropathways, so that the old ones don’t “shout so loud”. At Cranio Kent, I often see people who have been living with pain for many years, sometimes even decades and with Craniosacral Therapy, they very often find great relief. It is simple, but incredible. Why not try it for yourself?
This graphics book, Pain Is Really Strange was written by Steve Haines, and explains these concepts in simple terms.
Most of the people who come and see me are suffering from stress. But is stress just a part of every day life and something we have to learn to live with? What if that stress is having an affect on our overall health and sense of wellbeing? At what point should we get help?
Usually, people don’t realise how stressed they are when they come for their first treatment. Their bodies may be rigid with tension; they may have lived this way for many years, perhaps even their whole life; they may not even know they are holding stress in their body. Our bodies can get “stuck” in a permanent state of “fight, flight or freeze“. One of the goals in Craniosacral Therapy is to help the patient to achieve a real sense of calm and stillness. This may not happen immediately, but when it does, it is like opening a gateway to another world. A world of just “being” – a very unusual concept in this fast paced life. Really, the body and mind are being “taught” how to relax. In my experience, and with time, the patient finds this calm place easier and easier to access, and will nearly always report that they are: coping better with life, feeling more balanced, less depressed and anxious, panic attacks have stoped, they sleep better etc. In actual fact, their nervous system has been down regulated from that “fight, flight of freeze” state, to a “rest and digest” state. This is just a small part of what Craniosacral Therapy does, but hugely powerful and I urge you to try it and see the difference it makes to your life.
This article gives a good overview as to what Craniosacral Therapy is about, what it’s like and how it works. The author states, “Overall, CranioSacral Therapy is a highly effective light-touch therapy that works with the source of pain and dysfunction and the whole body simultaneously.” If you have never tried Craniosacral Therapy before and you are wondering if it might help you, why not give it a go! Apart from anything, most people really enjoy their sessions!
Full article: http://www.kmackinnon.com/#!5-Reasons-Why-CranioSacral-Therapy-May-Be-the-Answer-to-Your-Health-Concern/cf3b/5684482e0cf20a60e3aefc7a