There is often a perception that a Craniosacral Therapy session should be silent! I suppose it comes from the need to move towards stillness. Dynamic stillness is profound and holds many of the answers that we seek. However, stillness is not the goal for everyone and every session.
People and their needs vary hugely, so there are no shoulds when it comes to noise. One session is often very different to the last and requirements can change within moments. Your experience of Craniosacral Therapy is likely to be very different therefore to your friend’s. That is, just because you spend most of your session time in stillness and silence, doesn’t mean that its right or best for your sister/dad/next-door neighbour.
Here are some examples of what I mean:
Sometimes, the system needs to settle into stillness
Of course, a silent environment is usually ideal here. However, is complete silence realistic or always best? I have worked in many clinics and there is always noise of some kind….. buses pulling away or sirens from outside when I worked in a London clinic, noises from the chiropractor clicking and crunching in the room next door or babies crying when I worked in a multi-disciplinary clinic. It goes with the territory.
I work from home and I live in a village, so generally speaking it is pretty quiet here (people often comment about this). However, although of course every effort is made to create a peaceful and calm environment and various measures are in place to help ensure, I cannot guarantee absolute silence ever. Sometimes the postman rings on the doorbell or there’s a noise from upstairs for example.
People who are really settled and resourced, will not notice or care about the odd noise. Others who are struggling to settle perhaps or whose nervous system is easily startled, may find them acutely annoying or that it takes them a while to really settle again afterwards.
The truth is, with life, there is noise and observing the way we respond (or not) to outside influences tells us a lot about what is going on inside us.
Interestingly, some guided meditation programs will progress from peace onto an environment with intentional ‘interruptions’ placed here and there. They do this to challenge your nervous system and see how it is for you to stay in the ‘rest and digest’ in spite of the noises. It helps train your nervous system out of fight, flight or freeze essentially, so helps that overall ability to be calm.
2. Is it good to sleep during my session then?
It might be just what your system needs. A lot of releasing can occur in sleep. However, it might also be a way of your system dissociating from what is going on. If this is the case, I will work with you feel safe enough to stay present (and awake!). Its all about getting the best from your session.
3. When new people come to see me, they often struggle to find safety (either inside or outside of their bodies)
Until safety is established, the nervous system cannot settle and healing cannot occur. I work with my clients in order for them to find safety wherever they can. Sometimes, taking the client’s attention away from their body feels better (safer) and creates an environment for more progress. In time, we work towards finding safety within their bodies. There are a lot of different techniques used in order to work towards safety. This can take time and will involve lots of verbal intervention. Finding safety in the body is always a big deal! And subsequent discussion about what the client can feel in their body can really help things progress. Stillness is further down the line.
4. I find the silence unsettling
I’m used to silence but it can feel weird or scary to some people, especially when they’re in a new environment. Sometimes safety comes in the form of reassurance and conversation. If you are happier talking, then lets do that and see how we go.I often mention things that I can feel happening in the client’s body if I think they will be interested or if I am helping them to engage more with what is going on inside them.
This can really help the process of connection, presence and embodiment. At times, the client having their attention directly on the process can assist any releasing.
5. Memories (traumatic or otherwise) are coming up for me and I want to tell you
If you want to share what is going on for you, please do. It can often help.
6. I’ve got a lot going on and I need to talk to you
You are very welcome to tell me about what is troubling you if you would like to. It can be helpful to your session. I will intervene if feel that it is detrimental to your session.
7. I know my sessions help my back/neck/shoulder/knee pain whether we stay quiet or not, and I quite like our chats!
The most important thing for me is that you get the most from your session. I have a fair few clients who chat for a lot of their session (often about random things) and their systems adjust and release all the while. That is all good!
8. What about kids?
They are not dissimilar to adults in that they vary a lot! Safety is key here too. Helping your child to feel at home is my main priority. Expecting toddlers to lay still on the treatment table for example is ridiculous, so we use a toy box, books, cuddles with a parent, even a screen can help the settling process.
Hopefully that gives you a little overview as to how people’s needs vary so much and hence why the approach can vary so much. What’s good for one client, could be unhelpful for another. Your needs may change from one moment to the next. Its not about judgement, my job is to assess your needs as an individual as best I can and guide you accordingly.
If you have questions about any of this, please do ask – Sarah 07956 390419.
I pride myself in running a most ethical and professional practice and am bound by the CSTA, their team of lawyers and the guidelines that they provide to members, which of course is in strict accordance with government guidelines.
Following publication of the new lockdown legislation for England, and as a member of the CSTA (which is a verifying organisation for the CNHC) and a Craniosacral Therapy Practitioner, I am pleased to confirm that I have been given permission to continue to practise, in short where the benefits of the session outweigh the risk of transmission of the virus. Your safety is my number one priority and I will ensure that we are within the guidelines before you book and if need be, we will wait.
Safety is my number one priority as it is yours I’m sure. Covid secure measures are in place of course…..I am now having regular asymstomatic tests to give you extra peace of mind.
Please do not suffer in silence, we are facing a tsunami of mental health problems this year and CST can be of enormous help so please don’t wait, get in touch.
As Craniosacral Therapy has been placed under ‘medical and health services including mental health services, I am open and seeing both new clients and ones who are in maintenance.
We are all needing to look after ourselves now more than ever, boy has this year been challenging! So please don’t wait, get in touch – help is just a phone call away!
The clinics are Covid secure – all government guidelines are taken very seriously in order to keep everyone safe. There is a ‘Consent to Treatment’ form which you and I will both sign at your first appointment, as we agree to follow those guidelines (link here) – please read in advance of your appointment. You will be asked to wash your hands on arrival and I will take your temperature. I will be wearing a visor and a mask and there is now a requirement for you wear a face covering if you are able.
Hi, I’m Sarah. My first experience of Craniosacral Therapy (CST) was when I took my my newborn baby to get help for her colic and reflux many years ago. It was amazing to watch! I could ‘see’ the tension build up in her body and then disappear, as if like magic and I knew I needed to know more. After doing some research, I decided to change career and I started the three year training at the Craniosacral Therapy Educational Trust (CTET) in London.
At the time, I had no idea of the full potential of the therapy. All I really knew was that it helped newborns, but my eyes were soon opened to the profound and powerful effect it often has on people of all ages.
We all hold unresolved survival energy, or trauma in our bodies. This often has a fundamental effect on our ability to function in a balanced, healthy way and can have far reaching consequences on our physical and mental health. CST was originally developed from osteopathy and therapists are trained to create a listening, neutral, supportive, nurturing, resourced space for their client. Then, using a very gentle hands on approach, they work with the inherent treatment plan of their client’s system in order to facilitate the shifting and ultimately the release of the unresolved trauma / tension held in the body. People often say that having Craniosacral Therapy is like being listened to and held like never before.
My three year training was transformative for me, although it wasn’t always easy. To see such a powerful therapy working all around me was enthralling, but I soon discovered that I was uncomfortable accessing my own needs. This was unfamiliar to me, I had spent most of life nursing other people and I was really scared about how ugly / scary / monstrous releasing my ‘unresolved stuff’ would be! I mean seriously, what if I had a nervous breakdown or I couldn’t stop crying for a month!? I had buried all that stuff away for good reason!
Of course, if I wanted to practice CST authentically (which seemed the only way with a therapy built on such deep trust and safety), I had to be prepared to do the work on myself.
What I then discovered through receiving CST myself was that a qualified and experienced practitioner is practiced at helping the client access their resources and will support them through the process of trauma release, whilst ensuring that it takes place at a pace that feels okay for them. Safety, safety, safety. To allow the system to be overwhelmed would be counter productive. When the client feels safe and held by their therapist, they make great progress. That is to say, I discovered that even my stuff wasn’t scary when released little by little, with support.
So, I graduated in 2011 and set up Cranio Kent. I really love every day of my work and I’m proud to say that my practice is now one of the busiest and most well respected in Kent. The core of my practice is my hands on work (clinics are in East Malling village and Kings Hill), but in 2019, I was registered as a supervisor which means that I mentor and support other therapists now also. I have always been a registered member of the Craniosacral Therapy Association (CSTA) and work within their code of ethics and I also spent a number of years working as a tutor at the CTET’s teaching clinic in London.
Whilst of course I work with physical pain a lot and I love working with babies, I find that I am drawn most to work with anxiety.
It is my firm belief that as human beings, we all have the natural capacity to recover from overwhelming experiences. CST encourages the system to do just that. As your therapist, we are not the wounded and the healed, we are equals. I continue on my journey too, I may just be a little further down the road than you are.
If you’d like to understand more or have chat about whether CST is likely to help you, then please give me a call (07956 390419) / or email me email@example.com
Be prepared to GET WEIRDED OUT BY THIS (I was a couple of months ago, when it was first suggested to me)!
One or two of my existing clients asked me if I would continue to see them into the lockdown by giving them virtual Craniosacral Therapy sessions. I knew other people who’d practiced this way in the past, but I had always cringed at the term ‘distance healing’….the very idea makes me squirm still now – how ‘woo woo’ can you get and anyway, how could it possibly work!!? It was certainly nothing that I had tried before.
However, leaving people midway through their process is bloomin’ horrible and not in their best interests, so it made me consider if it possible that I could help on some level….
For someone who has always relied heavily upon the information that my hands give me during sessions, I was very tentative in my approach and explained to the clients in question that this was all new to me, I had no idea if or how it would work, but that they could pay a much reduced rate for the first ‘trial’ session and we would both see how things went, no pressure to continue from either side.
Now, I must point out that there is currently great debate and disagreement within the CST world about whether virtual CST can be called CST at all, because obviously some of the main elements of traditional CST are not there (eg hands on touch!), so this therapy literally does not yet have a name, but one thing is for sure, we are not allowed to call it CST (which I agree is right).
Having now done quite a few virtual sessions with various clients, I can say that working without my hands, and discovering for the first time what I can sense without physical touch is obscure to say the least and I’m not sure I can explain it! And I honestly never would have believed that it could work like it does. Its not the same, it clearly is not the same, but I am seeing really amazing results (even with pain)!
I should add that I have a foundation in Core Process Psychotherapy, so whilst talking therapy isn’t usually my focus, it is a skill that I have and one that obviously can and should be utilised at the moment, and this is a lot more transferable to online sessions (!) it is also an option.
So, the long and short of it is, that virtual sessions are available and I am opening them up to more people.My priority as always is to ensure that I am putting my clients best interests first, so the offer of virtual sessions is limited…..
– The first criteria is that you must have been to see me for therapy before.
– Secondly, I need to genuinely feel that you are likely to benefit from the session. What I mean by this is that I need to be confident that I can ‘hold’ you safely throughout, that we are able to ‘connect’ and therefore that it is possible for me to either facilitate change through our mutual ability to tune into your body (I will help you to do this) or provide you with psychotherapy (or a mixture of the two).
Some people would rather wait until I can see them face to face again and of course that is completely fine (I seriously cannot WAIT to get back to that, there is no substitute for hands on therapy), but if you think you would benefit from some help in the meantime, please do give me a call on 07956 390419, I’d love to hear from you. You can tell me how you’re doing, I’ll explain more about how virtual sessions work and we’ll discuss your best way forward. Help is here!
AND, I am offering the first virtual session at the much reduced trial price of £30, so why not give it a go!
Does your child suffer with anxiety? I see many children in my clinic and most of them come to me because they are suffering with symptoms such as excessive worrying, difficulty sleeping, poor digestion, being moody and snappy or withdrawn, obsessive behaviour, self-harm, panic attacks, depression and so on. To see your child suffering like this is very hard and to know what to do is even harder!
In my work as a Craniosacral Therapist, specialising in trauma and anxiety, I quickly became known as an expert in anxiety in children. I hope to give you some key points as to how to recognise that your child needs help and the best way to go about getting the help that will make the biggest difference to them whilst giving them some skills and more resilience going forward that will protect them from overwhelming anxiety into the future.
I don’t understand why is my child like this!?
Often we don’t, but perhaps that is not our role. We have all had different life experiences. Some people are more prone to anxiety than others and there are complex reasons for this.
It’s important to recognise that regardless of the symptoms your child is currently showing, the underlying cause (which is nearly always tension/anxiety) is what needs addressing and that is what I am practised at doing.
Our role as parents/carers
There are three key areas to this:
Accepting that your child needs help – and now!
We can pass it off as phase. We like to think that children are resilient and surely he/she’ll just grow out of it? And maybe they will. But in my experience, when anxiety shows itself and it is not addressed in a helpful manner, it tends to grow and manifest into bigger and more scary things. So, the sooner you act, the better
2. Don’t blame yourself
It’s a parent’s default isn’t it? I’ve been there. BUT – I have never met a parent yet who isn’t doing the very best that they can with what they have and who doesn’t want the best for their child. Many children have a less than ideal start in life (even the unresolved stress from an overwhelming birth experience can linger on in a child causing future issues), and some continue to have more than their fair share of struggles. Looking for somewhere to cast blame is nearly always unhelpful, so lets work towards acceptance of the current situation and the best way forward; its what you do now that matters.
3. Take an honest look at your own mental state
Ouch, I hate this one. As a parent myself, I find it very hard to admit that my mental state is perhaps the single most influencing factor in my children’s mental health. But, in my many years as a therapist working with anxious children, it has become more and more apparent to me that an anxious child often has an anxious parent. The reasons for this are long and complex (and deserve their own blog), and of course it can be a chicken and egg situation, but please please please, for your child’s sake, as well as your own, please take an honest look at your own mental health and if you need help, get some. Don’t just accept that ‘this is who I am’. Change is possible, even for yourself.
The advice that I am going to give you for the care of your anxious child is not dissimilar to the advice for an anxious adult, so you may able to apply a lot of the principles in this blog to help yourself as well as your child – wow, you are going to see some progress!
A toolbox for anxiety
In my clinic, I often talk to parents about creating a ‘toolbox’ for their child. The idea is to find resources, skills and coping strategies that help keep them well and happy and put them inside.
They will become familiar with these things through trying them. They will have their favourites and they will know that the toolbox is there any time they need to open it and use what’s inside. Some things they will grow out of over time, and new ones will be discovered, but it’ll be there for life and they can open it and use what’s inside anytime they need strength/support/life feels tough.
Essentially, I am talking about building the resilience of your child. I believe we all need a toolbox. None of us are immune to anxiety. As an old tutor of mine, Steve Haines always says, ‘squeeze anyone hard enough and they will become overwhelmed’. So as I go through a list of resources that I know to have been helpful for many children that I have worked with, see what you think your child might like to try and consider which of them might help you too. You might come up with some of your own too which would be great.
Craniosacral Therapy (CST) – addressing the cause not the symptoms
When we experience shock/trauma, which all of us do at some point, whatever our system is not able to resolve at the time, is held in the physiology. Using a very gentle hand on approach, I identify any specific tensions or restrictions that are being held in the child’s body, and then help those tensions to release in a very kind supportive way, and at a pace that is right for the child. My experience is that the result of having released this held shock/underlying tension is that anxiety symptoms lessen or completely resolve.
Another really important aspect of my work is to tune into the nervous system and listen to it. Our nervous systems should spend most of their time in ‘rest and digest’ mode and rarely need to be in ‘fight, flight or freeze’ (the latter only when there is an emergency). However, after experiencing either acute stress, or ongoing stress, our nervous systems can get stuck in the ‘fight, flight or freeze’ mode and finding the ‘off switch’ can become almost impossible. This leads to symptoms of stress, anxiety, depression and so on.
Teaching the nervous system how to slow down or down-regulate is very powerful and usually has a profound impact on the child’s outlook, sense of calm and ability to cope.
Many parents worry that their child won’t lay down for a treatment, much less stay still! But don’t worry, I work around their needs. Often newborn babies receive their treatment whilst in their mum’s arms, or even breast feeding. I get down on the floor with a toddler and a toybox and sometimes a screen to watch and I grab what hands on time I can – a few minutes here and there can be enough. Older children will often happily lay on the treatment table as long as they can have a parent close by holding their hand and reading a book. We work it out one way or another. The most important thing for me is to provide an environment where your child feels as safe and content as possible.
Nearly all the children that I see, REALLY enjoy their sessions and will ask to come back, even once they are all better! In fact, its not unusual for them to be asleep by the end!
I find that improvements are often seen after just one session, although obviously lasting change can take more of an investment. But to me, Craniosacral Therapy is the single most effective way to tackle anxiety.
2. Emotional connection/time with your kids
It has been proven that emotional connection creates a strong resilience when it comes to trauma/life’s difficulties. Think of ways to connect to your child. If you have a teenager like me, this may be more challenging!
Offering them your time and asking them how they’d like to spend it might be a good start. You may not have much time to offer, but that’s okay. Let them know how important they are to you and how you’d like to dedicate 15 mins of quality time to them every day. Talking, running, laughing, dancing, cooking, reading or having a cuddle can all be a great way to connect.
Mood cards can be a good way to find out more about what’s going on for your child. I use these ones with my two:
The Mood Cards: Make Sense of Your Moods and Emotions for Clarity, Confidence and Well-Being (MOOD Series) cards by Andrea Harr.
My girls and I make a habit of sitting at the table together to eat dinner each evening and we’ll often look at the cards. Each has an emotion on one side and some queries and affirmations on the other. I teach them that there is no such thing as a ‘bad’ emotion, that anger for example is neither good nor bad, it just is. So we’ll tend to pick one ‘easy’ emotion and one that we find harder and then we each have a turn to talk about what’s going on for us. It helps us all to open up and gain clarity on what we are feeling.
3. Books to tackle worry
There are several out there. My personal favourite is ‘What To Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid’s Guide To Overcoming Anxiety’ by Dawn Huebner and Bonnie Matthews.
This book works on the principle that worrying can become a habit and how to break that habit. It suggests that a worry is like a tomato seed and that the more we fuss over the seed and give it our attention, the more it’ll grow. It also introduces the idea of a ‘worry box’, which I love. We refuse to enter into thought or discussion about anything worrying, it simply goes in the worry box. We only open the worry box once a day for a limited time to address and rationalise the worries. Then it gets closed until the next day. Over time, you’d be amazing, the worries diminish.
4. Breathing exercises
The breath is a powerful tool. I have seen clients who are taking nine breaths to my one. Training yourself into the more natural, deeper, slower, more efficient and relaxed abdominal pattern of breathing will help the nervous system to slow down and to stay calm. Ten minutes of practice, morning and night will usually mean that your regular breathing and therefore your nervous system will be calmer most of the time in a week or two.
Your child may not be old enough to do this, but if he/she is, the main two things to address are (whilst laying on their back)
a) their tummy moves in and out with their breathing, not their chest
b) the out breath should be as slow as possible – a slow count of 6 would be amazing
The more awkward it feels to start with, the more benefit you will get from the transition! Start where you are at. Acknowledge the awkwardness and take baby steps. Using your tummy for one breathe only might be great progress! Slowing that out breath down from a count of just one to nearly two is great too! Be kind and patient with yourself and your child, these are life skills we are learning.
There is no ‘correct’ way of being mindful. What we are really talking about when we say mindfulness is getting practiced at bringing ourselves into the present moment. When we are truly in the present, the past doesn’t take over and the future hasn’t happened yet. It is a key skill in mental health. Again, a life skill and one that most of us need to get better at.
There is much help and advice out there to help you achieve mindfulness. Often CST opens the door to children and adults alike, but if you would like some guidance, I like this book and CD:
Sitting Still Like A Frog: Mindfulness Exercises For Kids (And Their Parents) by Eline Snel.
There are also many apps to try.
It has been proven that gratitude has many benefits to us psychologically. In this material world where all we seem to want is more, appreciating what is good in life can have genuine benefits. Making a daily habit of naming a couple of things that each family member is grateful for can really steer things into a more positive direction.
7. Referral to CAMHS
The school may already be aware of your child’s anxiety. They or the GP may make a referral to CAMHS. You or your child may even be able to make the referral yourself.
After what is usually a very long wait, you should be given an for your child to be given a mental health assessment. To say that CAMHS is under-resourced is a huge understatement, which is a very sorry situation and a large proportion of children do not any help at all.
My advice would always be to take responsibility yourself. By all means apply to CAMHS for help, but the help if there is any is likely to be slow and insufficient. Thankfully, there is much that you can do in the meantime, rather than waiting for the help that may never come (see toolbox!).
Some schools are able to offer talking /play therapy which can be helpful.
Hopefully this blog has given you an insight as to how you can be most effective at helping your anxious child, and yourself!
Life can be stressful. We all need healthy coping strategies and support in place. Start filling up your child’s toolbox. By taking action now, you are showing your child that it is good to be open about their feelings and to reach out when they need help or are worried; that they are not alone and that things can and will get better.
I am here, even throughout the COVID-19 pandemic to answer your queries on 07956 390419 (Sarah Johnson RBCST BCST) or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
I’m currently writing a book on the subject of anxiety in children and how as parents, we can best help them. I will be expanding on many of the subjects that I raise here, and also I am adding a lot of new ones. Please keep your eye out for it.
...the pain in my neck is a lot better, I haven't had nearly as many waves of anxiety and I feel a lot happier!"
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